Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log A private place to keep track of what’s happening **Need this one to look like something else? Get the discreet version instead → Whether you’re still figuring out what to call it, still living with it, or trying to decide what to do next, the Verbal Abuse Incident and…
Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook A Comprehensive Plan to Help Keep You Safer Whether You Stay or Leave **Need this one to look like something else? Get the discreet version instead → The Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook, now in its Fourth Edition, gives you the tools to build a safety plan that fits your…
Incident Log and Safety Plan Workbook Bundle Keep the record and build the plan, both workbooks in one purchase **Need this one to look like something else? Get the discreet version instead → Two workbooks for $19. Bought apart they run $22. The Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log is the record. You write down…
Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log: Keep Your Own Record of What’s Said and Done Named for privacy: Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Buy from this page if nobody in your house can know what you bought. Memory gets slippery when someone keeps telling you it didn’t happen that way. The Log gives you somewhere to…
Incident Log and Safety Plan Bundle: Both Workbooks Named for privacy: Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Bundle. Buy from this page if nobody in your house can know what you bought. Nineteen dollars for the pair. Twenty-two dollars if you bought them one at a time. One of them is for writing down what happens. Dates,…
Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook: Stay Safer Whether You Stay or Leave Named for privacy: More Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Buy from this page if nobody in your house can know what you bought. This is the fourth edition, and it works the way a workbook works. It asks the questions and you write the…

Get the Abuser’s Voice Out of Your Head My sister, Erin Chavez, created this guided meditation for abuse victims, although she meant it just for me at first. I had to tell you she made it for me first because my sister is so supportive of me and all-around awesome. And I want everyone to…

Staying Is a Choice You Can Make Staying in an abusive relationship is a choice some of us make. But when you’re staying in an abusive relationship, you won’t find much support from your family or friends–if your abuser hasn’t isolated you from them–or even domestic violence helping agencies. People who would like to support…

Therefore, I am finding that I am an emotional chameleon. I must learn to turn off my emotions and the thought train they trigger when I recognize abuse to protect myself and begin “observation mode”. This is not going to work for the long haul. I do not want to live my life connecting and…

“I Cannot Control You” is the missing key for people setting boundaries in abusive relationships. I cannot control you, but I can control me. So if you are acting like a jerk, I get to decide if I’m going to stay around you while you act that way…or not. Boundaries for abusive relationships help you…
