Recovery from Domestic Abuse
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After Abuse, Don’t Look Far to Find Yourself
You Didn’t Lose Yourself, You Hid After abuse, when we look into the mirror, we think we see someone we do not know anymore. We tend to think the abuse changed us at our core. We worry that we’ll never be “that girl” ever again. But I’ve decided to think of the effects of abuse…
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I’m in Long-Term Counseling
Find “the right” counselor. You get to decide who is the right counselor, no one else. If you don’t feel comfortable with a therapist after three visits, continue counseling but start looking for a better match. There are different kinds of therapies available to you. I recommend one that deals with the here and now…
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Lessons I’ve Learned From the Dark Side
I have a wealth of lessons learned because of my experience with the dark side of humanity. I’ll bet all of you have learned a thing or two because of your abusive relationships, too. Maya Angelou said, “I can be changed by what happened to me; but I refuse to be reduced by it.” Abuse…
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Mothers Separated From Children: One Way to Connect If The Abuser Wins Custody
Mothers separated from their children after dealing with the father’s abuse is the worst possible outcome. Learn how to reduce the damage.
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Shapeshifting: How to Change Your Story
July 2012 Newsletter Are You Ready To Change Your Story? Hello! Thank you for being integral to Verbal Abuse Journals. Your thoughts and concerns are at the top of my mind every morning when I wake up. I read all of your comments and emails. Some add to my dreams for my future and others remind…
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Newsletter Archive
Verbal Abuse Journals Newsletter Archives Empowered Healing from Domestic Abuse Empowered healing occurs when you take your domestic abuse recovery into your own hands. There are many ways of doing that, and here’s a recipe to help. You Have “People” – March 7, 2013 Hi there! I’m happy to write to you today because you brighten…
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Letters About Abuse
In the months after leaving my abusive husband, there was so much I wanted to explain to my boys! My oldest son’s anger was heavy and dense. I could reach out and touch my youngest son’s broken heart on his sleeve. I wanted so badly to explain my side of things…but I couldn’t.
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Are You A Great Candidate for Brainwashing?
Brainwashing and Abuse in Relationships Brainwashing occurs in long-term abusive relationships but begins in the very beginning. I once pictured a brainwash-able person as a prisoner of war. Much later, I understood that brainwashing easily affects people just like me. I doubt my husband brainwashed me on purpose. He did not have the military’s training…
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Anxiety From Domestic Abuse Is Tough To Deal With!
Anxiety is a big deal for abuse victims, past and present. Sometimes I still find my heart racing at sounds that remind me of my “old life” in my abusive marriage. Fortunately, now I recognize my anxiety instead of not feeling it. Anxiety was such a huge part of my life when I lived with…
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Self-Care Activities for Domestic Abuse Survivors
They Help You Feel Better Fast Do your abuser’s words haunt you? When his voice continues ringing loudly in your mind, it’s difficult to stay free of your abusive relationship! The key is to replace that voice with your own…but sometimes, due to your severe abuse, your own voice is just as tough on you as your…