About Relationship Abuse
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What Is Verbal Abuse?
What is verbal abuse? A control technique used to coerce you to do & say what the abuser wants you to do and say. Verbal abuse systematically erases you and replaces your sweet soul with…
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Are Abusers Mentally Ill? If So, What Do I Do About It?
No, Mental Illness Is Not What Makes Someone Abusive. Are abusers mentally ill? Short answer: no. Mental illness is not what makes someone abusive, and most people with a mental illness never harm a partner.1 Some…
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Am I Abused? (A Quiz)
Victims in abusive relationships wake up every morning wondering if the abuser will be nice that day. The abuser does not have bad days. Abuser’s have consistent bad behaviors. This Am I Abused Quiz can…
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About Abuse
What Are Other Words for Abuse? You might hear abuse called many things: Have a specific question? Start with the domestic abuse and violence FAQs. Who Is Abused? Abusers target any person (adult or child)…
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You Can’t Make Your Abuser Abuse You
You can’t make your abuser abuse you. The responsibility for abusing falls directly on the shoulders of the perpetrator, not the victim. Yet so many victims (me too!) want to somehow make the abuse “our…
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Dream World of Abuse in Relationships
I wrote this some time ago, before leaving my abuser: Poe wrote, “All that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream.” Perhaps his statement sheds light on why abuse is so…
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Anniversary Anxiety Related to Domestic Violence
February 1st last year was on Monday. Will and I had gone to court the Thursday before, and I had told the judge I agreed that he could see the boys. That first weekend, he…
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Leaving But Not Yet Free
He and I have children together. I am connected to him for the rest of my life, through them. Although our vows to love, honor and cherish fell by the wayside, “for better or worse, ’til death…
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Leaving Hip-Hop Sounds A Lot Like Leaving Abuse
Yes, this is Eminem’s song “25 to Life” and Marc tells me it’s about Eminem leaving Hip-Hop, which it very well may be. But it’s about something else, too. In case you don’t like Eminem,…
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In Isolation
During my marriage, I lived in isolation. I knew people outside of my home and sometimes shared specific experiences concerning my ex-husband with them. But somehow, I managed to keep most of the pain and…