About Relationship Abuse
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I Told Everyone About the Abuse
This outreach benefits me every day. I no longer feel alone or voiceless. Because of reaching out on my blog, I found the courage to locate domestic violence organizations in my local area for face…
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Things Abusers Say and Do
Things abusers say and do are designed to control you. Whether abusers say and do these things knowingly or unconsciously, the result is the same: you feel lower than dirt, or become afraid and intimidated.…
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‘You Hate Men!’ Is Diversion . . . and Retraumatization
Telling me that my rape is the source of our problems is a diversion. It turns me away from whatever Will is doing and causes me to examine myself. By blaming my past for our…
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Sobriety Fixes Nothing
Drinking only lowers inhibitions – it lets you be “more you” and gives the abuser permission to abuse.
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Observing, Not Participating In, My Abuse
Therefore, I am finding that I am an emotional chameleon. I must learn to turn off my emotions and the thought train they trigger when I recognize abuse to protect myself and begin “observation mode”.…
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How to Help a Domestic Abuse Victim
Is It Even Possible? Is it possible to help a domestic abuse victim? How could you, a bystander to your loved one’s abusive relationship, help? Is there a way to help her without inviting the abuser…
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How to Stop Abuse in Your Relationship
We can change anything we want, but what I’m looking forward to most is not changing my Self (for a change)! I’ve spent years trying to fit my big huge Self into the little-bitty box…
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Are Abusers Typically Men? Let’s Stop Assuming They Are
Men can abuse their male partners; women can abuse their female partners. Women who abuse men are just as horrid as the reversed situation. I want to make it clear that the information presented on…
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What Does Living with Domestic Abuse Feel Like?
Living with domestic abuse feels like you’re carrying around a 500-pound weight. Except you don’t realize you’re carrying the weight. You don’t remember how much grander life felt before you picked up the weight, because…