My Life After Abuse

Lessons I’ve Learned From the Dark Side

I have a wealth of lessons learned because of my experience with the dark side of humanity. I’ll bet all of you have learned a thing or two because of your abusive relationships, too. Maya Angelou said, “I can be changed by what happened to me; but I refuse to be reduced by it.” Abuse…
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Mothers Separated From Children: One Way to Connect If The Abuser Wins Custody

Mothers separated from their children after dealing with the father’s abuse is the worst possible outcome. Learn how to reduce the damage.
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Letters About Abuse

In the months after leaving my abusive husband, there was so much I wanted to explain to my boys! My oldest son’s anger was heavy and dense. I could reach out and touch my youngest son’s broken heart on his sleeve. I wanted so badly to explain my side of things…but I couldn’t.
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How I Left An Abusive Relationship Interview

How do you get out of an abusive relationship? You just leave. When the thought to leave strikes you, act on it, go. You deal with the emotions and hardships after you’ve left, one by one, just as you deal with all life challenges. Working out a safety plan in advance, just in case, doesn’t…
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Reaching Out Doesn’t Guarantee Immediate Help: Do It Anyway

Many people reach out for help with domestic abuse, but sometimes they reach out for help to the wrong people, or they reach out to the right people but become discouraged. Don’t give up if the domestic abuse hotline you call or friend you tell about the abuse doesn’t meet your needs. Keep reaching for…
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Trophy Wife – Side Effects of Abuse

The image you see here shows my state of mind soon after our wedding. The colors show brightly enough, the flowers are rather pretty. But the women undergo sad transitions. The signs of abuse are here, hidden by brightly colored flowers.
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What’s It Like to Live Life Without Abuse?

Transcript Hi! This is Kellie Jo Holly. I write the Verbal Abuse In Relationships blog at healthyplace.com. I’ve been out of my abusive relationship for about two years. It hasn’t been a cakewalk, I won’t lie. The beginning was pretty difficult. But here I am, I’m sitting in my own peaceful kitchen surrounded by four…
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Inspiration to Leave Your Abusive Relationship: Liberty or Death?

My Thanksgiving weekend would not be complete without remembering our great country and its roots in the ultimate desire for freedom. Of course, I am grateful that almost 240 years ago, brave men and women fought for America’s freedom from the abuse and oppression of the British crown; I am also grateful that I fought…
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Shutting Up for Many Reasons: Some Valid, Some Not

Last year, I tapered off from this blog because I was afraid of what would come of it in court. Nothing came of it in court. This blog was either irrelevant or the battle didn’t get nasty enough for his attorney to use it. Or maybe there was nothing to be said about it. Will’s…
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I Appreciate You

Lately I’ve been thinking about you, the readers of this blog. You readers are my core; without you, I probably wouldn’t have had the courage to continue the leaving process after it begun. Without you, I think I may have resigned myself to more years of abuse – maybe I would have stayed until I…
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