How to Stop Abuse
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Observing, Not Participating In, My Abuse
Therefore, I am finding that I am an emotional chameleon. I must learn to turn off my emotions and the thought train they trigger when I recognize abuse to protect myself and begin “observation mode”.…
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Public Sector Counseling at DSS
She has been wonderful! I’ve been to her three times, and each time she was able to point out a valuable issue for me to examine. Issues that are MINE, not his. She’s teaching me…
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Set Personal Boundaries
I Didn’t Understand Personal Boundaries No one ever pointed out to me that we each have personal boundaries. I knew when I didn’t like someone standing too close to me, but the idea that individuals…
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Forced Counseling for the Abuser
I’m not saying you and I have no faults, but when it comes to abuse, we victims have NO RESPONSIBILITY for the abuse or the abuser’s actions and words. In my opinion, if my husband…
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Named the Type of Verbal Abuse He Used Out Loud
If you find that naming the type of abuse out loud escalates the abuse, then please be smarter than me. For goodness sake, STOP SAYING IT OUT LOUD! But please, DO name the type of…
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Six Sessions of Individual Counseling
I received six sessions of individual counseling through Military One Source. It was only six sessions because my insurance offered them with no referral. When I go back to private counseling, I’ll need a referral.…
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How to Survive Abuse – Maybe
I’ll tell you what I’ve tried and what the results were to give you an idea of what directions you could go. You are the only one who can decide what your course of action…
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How to Help a Domestic Abuse Victim
Is It Even Possible? Is it possible to help a domestic abuse victim? How could you, a bystander to your loved one’s abusive relationship, help? Is there a way to help her without inviting the abuser…
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Boundaries for Abusive Relationship Examples
“I Cannot Control You” is the missing key for people setting boundaries in abusive relationships. I cannot control you, but I can control me. So if you are acting like a jerk, I get to…
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Boundaries Are Crucial for Abuse Victims
Once you set your personal boundaries, you do not have to tell a person who crosses your line why you’re doing what you’re doing unless you want to do so. With no warning at all,…