How to Stop Abuse

Safety Planning Process Can Be Emotionally Messy

Facing the truth isn’t a failure One of the toughest things about the safety planning process is that it forces you to face the abuse in your relationship. When you look at your abusive relationship truthfully, the panic to leave begins. You rush to judgment on yourself, thinking things like: Please, refrain from judging yourself.…
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Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log

Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log A private place to keep track of what’s happening **Need this one to look like something else? Get the discreet version instead → Whether you’re still figuring out what to call it, still living with it, or trying to decide what to do next, the Verbal Abuse Incident and…
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Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook: Stay Safer Whether You Stay or Leave

Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook A Comprehensive Plan to Help Keep You Safer Whether You Stay or Leave **Need this one to look like something else? Get the discreet version instead → The Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook, now in its Fourth Edition, gives you the tools to build a safety plan that fits your…
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Incident Log and Safety Plan Workbook Bundle

Incident Log and Safety Plan Workbook Bundle Keep the record and build the plan, both workbooks in one purchase **Need this one to look like something else? Get the discreet version instead → Two workbooks for $19. Bought apart they run $22. The Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log is the record. You write down…
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Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen

Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log: Keep Your Own Record of What’s Said and Done Named for privacy: Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Buy from this page if nobody in your house can know what you bought. Memory gets slippery when someone keeps telling you it didn’t happen that way. The Log gives you somewhere to…
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Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Bundle

Incident Log and Safety Plan Bundle: Both Workbooks Named for privacy: Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Bundle. Buy from this page if nobody in your house can know what you bought. Nineteen dollars for the pair. Twenty-two dollars if you bought them one at a time. One of them is for writing down what happens. Dates,…
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More Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen

Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook: Stay Safer Whether You Stay or Leave Named for privacy: More Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Buy from this page if nobody in your house can know what you bought. This is the fourth edition, and it works the way a workbook works. It asks the questions and you write the…
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Too Fast Too Soon: A Commitment Red Flag

The too fast too soon red flag I mention in the following video has to do with If you feel either way, it is important to slow down. Take a breath alone. Let things settle. That person isn’t going anywhere if they are truly in love with you. Transcript Hello, my name is Kellie Jo Holly,…
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Verbal Self-Defense: What You Must Know

Stop or Slow the Escalation of Abusive Anger Verbal abuse underlies most domestic violence, so verbal self-defense can help you when your abuser flies off the handle. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of its destructive nature but because it so often abusive anger escalates into physical violence. Learning the art of verbal…
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Jane’s Story of Leaving Domestic Abuse

What happened that made you decide to leave? I finally decided to leave for good after nearly four years together, when the cycle of abuse kept escalating from after the first year of being together. I went back to him, with him apologizing and re-introducing the honeymoon period, to the tension-building, that lead to abuse…
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