Category: How to Stop Abuse
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Emotions After Leaving Your Abuser
Escaping Abuse Is More Than Leaving Escaping an abusive relationship involves more than having a safety plan and walking out the door. In addition to the logistical planning, you also must plan for some confusing emotions after leaving your abuser. The loaded emotions create a minefield that my therapist didn’t prepare me for. But I…
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Too Fast Too Soon: A Commitment Red Flag
The too fast too soon red flag I mention in the following video has to do with If you feel either way, it is important to slow down. Take a breath alone. Let things settle. That person isn’t going anywhere if they are truly in love with you. Transcript Hello, my name is Kellie Jo Holly,…
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Verbal Self-Defense: What You Must Know
Stop or Slow the Escalation of Abusive Anger Verbal abuse underlies most domestic violence, so verbal self-defense can help you when your abuser flies off the handle. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of its destructive nature but because it so often abusive anger escalates into physical violence. Learning the art of verbal…
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Jane’s Story of Leaving Domestic Abuse
What happened that made you decide to leave? I finally decided to leave for good after nearly four years together, when the cycle of abuse kept escalating from after the first year of being together. I went back to him, with him apologizing and re-introducing the honeymoon period, to the tension-building, that lead to abuse…
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Jamie B’s Story – Leaving Abuse
What happened that made you decide to leave? I was this with this man for 6 years and he was perfect for 2 years. Then one day, he started to change. I figured okay it’s hormones and it’ll not go crazy. Nope, I was wrong. His behavior just got worse so I had no choice…
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3 Things Domestic Abuse Survivors Know That Victims Don’t
Only Domestic Abuse Survivors Will Read This Only domestic abuse survivors will read this post. If you’re an abuse victim, you’re somewhere else online researching what you can do about fixing your relationship or marriage, not searching for information about abuse. You see, abuse victims don’t know they’re victims. Abuse victims don’t recognize abuse, so…
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Vanessa’s Story of Leaving Abuse
What happened that made you decide to leave? My mental and physical health was going downhill fast. After 29 years of hell, I didn’t have much emotional or mental energy left. I wasn’t eating much and was sleeping lousy. I was a mental wreck. He was no longer working steadily on our farm or anywhere…
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Empowered Healing from Domestic Abuse
Empowered Healing Recipe By Anonymous I see my recipe for empowered healing from emotional abuse as an ongoing process. I see myself as a cook making a long, slow meal cooked over multiple days. Creating this recipe is a labor of self-love. I’m constantly tasting the mix as I go along and adding a pinch of…
