Bang
His anger comes from nowhere. At least that what it seems like to me.
Maybe he thinks the outburst is justified, but now I think his motive is to get me back under his thumb.
Quivering, trying to end the tirade by whatever means possible. Embarassed. Confused. Questioning.
BANG – it’s happened. And it’s up to me to calm the beast.
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July 1st, 2009 at 12:51 AM
I hate “calming the beast” when you finally go to bed after HOURS of going over the same LITTLE thing again and again for hours, what if he hits you in the back when you turn on your side. “Explain yourself” ummmmmm I have no idea what the offense was that I committed. So then I get to spend hours apologizing for something imaginary, and trying to calm him down. Bang. Finally someone who understands the torment. He used to hit, and threatens to do it again all the time. People dont realize that verbal can at times be just as bad, at least the physical wouldn’t go on for 10 hours.
July 12th, 2009 at 9:30 AM
Your thoughts remind me of many wasted days and sleepless nights “talking it through” with my husband. I know that your “10 hour” comment is factual – some people wouldn’t believe that a conversation concerning oh, say “Why You Incompetently Manage Money” could last so long OR be taken so seriously. What they don’t understand is that sitting there and taking it silently is what the abuser expects and wants. The more we defend, justify or protest, the longer the “conversation” continues.
And about the physical violence, I’ve experienced it three times in my marriage. Although my husband hasn’t threatened that type of abuse verbally, I carry the undercurrent thought “will he hit me?” within myself.
Anne, why are you with your guy? Is it possible to leave? Do you want to leave? He’s going to hit you again, and he’s going to continually waste your time – waste your life. What’s keeping you there?
July 12th, 2009 at 10:08 AM
“He’s going to hit you again, and he’s going to continually waste your time – waste your life. What’s keeping you there?”
Wow! The word PROFOUND comes to mind. With all the thoughts I’ve had go through my head while trying to think this through for myself…I never thought of it that way…wasting MY time, MY life… Good stuff to think about!!
July 12th, 2009 at 12:55 PM
hee hee…you were commenting on my blog as I was commenting on yours!