I have a wealth of lessons learned because of my experience with the dark side of humanity. I’ll bet all of you have learned a thing or two because of your abusive relationships, too.
Maya Angelou said, “I can be changed by what happened to me; but I refuse to be reduced by it.” Abuse could not reduce me. It tried really hard, but I came out better on the other end. I’ll bet you did too.
Here’s a partial list of lessons learned from the dark side:
- Darkness seeks to overpower light; therefore, darkness may seek me again, and again and again because my light is too bright to hide. It’s okay. I beat back the darkness before, and I can do it again.
- Pressure me to be more like you and you’ll see the tail-side of my dress sashaying on to better relationships.
- No one, not my child, husband, friend, parent or boss, has the right to tell me who I am, was, or will be. I decide that for myself.
- God speaks directly to my heart. I hear Spirit’s voice on the wind. You cannot pummel me with your translation of God’s word to pigeon-hole me in your prison.
- Snarky comments and barely concealed insults say a lot more about the person saying them than they do about me.
- Anything someone says to me reflects their heart directly into my eyes. I know how to choose good people.
- I do not laugh at jokes that make me uncomfortable. I do not smile when you step out of line.
- The best way to discover someone’s motive is to ask them what it is.
- I love you because you are a human being, one of God’s creations; but I will not let a hurtful nature near me. I do not invite the Devil to dinner.
- Life tries to teach me lessons easy first. If easy doesn’t work, it tries again a bit more forcefully. I can now sense when I’m getting an easy lesson! I learn it the first time and feel grateful so life doesn’t need to teach me the hard way.
- How you treat animals foretells how you will treat me. I will not hesitate to take your dog and disappear.
- How you treat people who are noticeably different from you foretells how you will treat me. I will always be different from you, so you’d better be able to handle that with joy, love, and tolerance.
What has your past taught you about life? About darkness? Please share on my facebook page or in the comments below.