This Didn’t Help End Abuse
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Explained Myself to End Verbal Abuse
He knows what he is doing. There is no empathy for “fucking whores” & he redirects my pain to the business of being married. Insurance & meaningless emails.
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I Called My Local Sheriff’s Department (Non-Emergency)
I called the Sheriff’s department and spoke with the person in charge of domestic violence cases. I wanted to find out as much as I could about the process that occurs after calling the police…
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I Tried Marriage Counseling
Marriage counseling is designed for couples who have a failure in communication or emotional connection. Abuse is NOT a communication failure, nor is it lacking an emotional connection. Abuse twists up love into an unrecognizable…
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I’m in Long-Term Counseling
Find “the right” counselor. You get to decide who is the right counselor, no one else. If you don’t feel comfortable with a therapist after three visits, continue counseling but start looking for a better…
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Received Counseling from the Army’s Morale Welfare and Recreation Program
If you press charges and go to court and your military spouse is found guilty, you’ll receive counseling and other services and the soldier will most likely receive a Dishonorable Discharge. If the soldier is…
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Attended Domestic Violence Support Groups
Abusers, when you think about it, are truly ridiculous people. Everything they saw we are, they are. Abusers project their worst fears about themselves onto us and then hate us for representing their fear. Support…
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I Told Everyone About the Abuse
This outreach benefits me every day. I no longer feel alone or voiceless. Because of reaching out on my blog, I found the courage to locate domestic violence organizations in my local area for face…
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Sobriety Fixes Nothing
Drinking only lowers inhibitions – it lets you be “more you” and gives the abuser permission to abuse.
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I’m Hoping The Abuse Will Resolve Itself
Hope is wonderful when you wish for it not to rain on a picnic. Hope is grand for tossing the dice. Hope does not work when you want to end domestic abuse.
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Observing, Not Participating In, My Abuse
Therefore, I am finding that I am an emotional chameleon. I must learn to turn off my emotions and the thought train they trigger when I recognize abuse to protect myself and begin “observation mode”.…