Crazymaking and Gaslighting
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Emotional Drama Is Not Love, But We Know the Formula for It
Emotional drama is not love. It is manufactured by the abuser during the initial attachment period using smoke and mirrors to disguise their true intentions. They want to place you under a love spell so you will never leave them, and science can tell you how they do it. What You Might Notice The abuser…
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Hindsight Can’t Help Me But Could Help You
Hindsight shows me my mistakes in thinking. It shows me how my love for him blinded me. Maybe if you can see my hindsight before it happens to you, you’ll get OUT. I now understand that no choice he presented to me would end the abuse. I left the Army-abuse continued. Got pregnant-abuse continued. Doing…
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Verbal Abuse Symptoms In Long-Term Relationships
Do you have these verbal abuse symptoms? If you are depressed, anxious, lonely or feel you do not know who you are anymore, or many other debilitating conditions both mental and physical, you might be a victim of verbal abuse and domestic abuse or violence.
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Abuse Is Never Love But I Wanted It to Be
What I didn’t understand at the time was that if Will wanted to lash out at me, it did not matter what I said or did or how I said or did it. The purpose of yelling at me, accusing me of lying, telling me I was a horrid mother, insisting I was cheating and…
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Explained Myself to End Verbal Abuse
He knows what he is doing. There is no empathy for “fucking whores” & he redirects my pain to the business of being married. Insurance & meaningless emails.
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How Crazymaking and Coercive Control Affect Your Brain and Thinking
Have you ever walked away from an argument with your partner thinking, I know what just happened. So why can’t I explain it anymore? Maybe you started the conversation knowing exactly what you meant. Twenty minutes later, you were defending something you never said, apologizing for something you didn’t do, or wondering whether your memory…
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Crazymaking: Abuse That Makes You Doubt Your Own Reality
Crazymaking confuses, causes paranoia and makes you doubt your perceptions. Crazy makers do this on purpose because a weakened victim is easier to control.
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Examples of Verbal Abuse
Types of verbal abuse range from full on anger to forgetting on purpose. Even the silent treatment is a type of verbal abuse! Verbal abusers use several other sneaky tactics to abuse and control their victims, too. Recognizing the types of verbal abuse is the first step to overcoming its effects and regaining your mental…
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Crazymaking Rules for Abusive Relationships
We abuse victims have rules we must follow to keep our abusers happy. Unfortunately, those rules can change at any time. And then change back again. Hmph.
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‘You Hate Men!’ Is Diversion . . . and Retraumatization
Telling me that my rape is the source of our problems is a diversion. It turns me away from whatever Will is doing and causes me to examine myself. By blaming my past for our current problems is also wrong. Will blames me for our problems without taking any responsibility for his behavior.