During My Abusive Marriage
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Safety Planning Process Can Be Emotionally Messy
Facing the truth isn’t a failure One of the toughest things about the safety planning process is that it forces you to face the abuse in your relationship. When you look at your abusive relationship truthfully, the panic to leave begins. You rush to judgment on yourself, thinking things like: Please, refrain from judging yourself.…
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Emotions After Leaving Your Abuser
Escaping Abuse Is More Than Leaving Escaping an abusive relationship involves more than having a safety plan and walking out the door. In addition to the logistical planning, you also must plan for some confusing emotions after leaving your abuser. The loaded emotions create a minefield that my therapist didn’t prepare me for. But I…
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Can You Be Financially Abused If You Have Money?
You can be financially abused even if you earn your own money or have access to family funds. Financial abuse is more than you may think.
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My Abusive Marriage Recap
While reorganizing this website, I came across some pages that don’t fit the site any longer. But I didn’t want to get rid of their brief synopses of the abuse suffered through the years. So I thought I’d add them to a brand new page and see if brevity works as well as a deep…
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Explained Myself to End Verbal Abuse
He knows what he is doing. There is no empathy for “fucking whores” & he redirects my pain to the business of being married. Insurance & meaningless emails.
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Living in My Abusive Marriage
Living with abuse is horrible. I wish I could go back to the days when I thought I was a bad person or mentally ill. At least then I only had to fix myself.
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Received Counseling from the Army’s Morale Welfare and Recreation Program
If you press charges and go to court and your military spouse is found guilty, you’ll receive counseling and other services and the soldier will most likely receive a Dishonorable Discharge. If the soldier is found guilty of domestic violence in court, victims of domestic violence qualify for Transitional Compensation (Financial). In my case, that…
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‘You Hate Men!’ Is Diversion . . . and Retraumatization
Telling me that my rape is the source of our problems is a diversion. It turns me away from whatever Will is doing and causes me to examine myself. By blaming my past for our current problems is also wrong. Will blames me for our problems without taking any responsibility for his behavior.
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Coming Apart – Losing Personal Boundaries
I laid bare the last protected areas of my soul in hope that he could understand me. I just knew if he understood me, the arguments would end.