About Relationship Abuse
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Ordering and Demanding
Abusers “Forget” That You Are Your Own Person If your partner orders you around and demands you meet their requests, then you hear verbal abuse. Patricia Evans, the author of the best verbal abuse books,…
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How to Heal From Brainwashing
Regain Control of Your Mind Can you heal from brainwashing? Yes. Once you know you’ve experienced it, you can heal from brainwashing and recover from domestic abuse. First, learn how your abuser used brainwashing steps to bring you…
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Brainwashing and Intelligence Are Unrelated
Brainwashing and intelligence have nothing to do with one another. Unintelligent people can brainwash intelligent ones as easily as an intelligent abuser can brainwash a less intelligent person. The effects of verbal abuse or the effects of any type of…
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Withholding or Depriving
What Might an Abuser Withhold from a Victim? Withholding affection is one type of deprivation, and that occurs when your mate purposefully withholds physical contact (including sex). Divorces of the past were granted for “alienation of…
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Denial
Denial Is Lying Meant to Control Denial is the same as lying, and some verbal abusers are mistaken for “pathological liars” because they use denial as a form of control so often. Lying to control others is different…
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Countering
Countering Is Devious and Crazymaking Countering occurs when your abuser expresses the near opposite of what you say no matter if In the context of verbal abuse, countering is not the same as disagreeing. It is normal for…
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Forgetting
What Is Forgetting as It Relates to Verbal Abuse? “Forgetting involves both denial and covert manipulation. […] Consistently forgetting interactions which have a great impact on another person is verbally abusive denial.” The key to…
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Trivializing
What Is Trivializing? To explain trivializing, I need you to think about a time when you felt a great sense of accomplishment. For example, when I finished my first website, I felt that kind of…
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Blocking and Diverting
What Is Blocking and Diverting and Why Do Abusers Use It? Blocking and diverting is basically changing the topic of a conversation or refusing to participate in it to gain control. Changing a normal conversation into…
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Accusing and Blaming
What’s the Purpose of Accusing and Blaming? Accusing and blaming help abusers take the focus off of what they’re doing and put it onto their victims. If your abuser can convincingly accuse you of “starting this…