Are Abusers “Crazy”?
Short answer: No. No law or psychiatrist officially says that abusers (in general) are mentally ill. Yes, SOME abusers are mentally ill; however, the percentage of abusers who are mentally ill is the same percentage as in the general population.
This means that most likely, your abuser is NOT mentally ill. Somehow, it’s more comforting to think that the abuser has a mental illness. If he’s “sick” then what the abuser does is “not his fault.” It’s bone-chilling to think that what my husband says and does to me is done WITH CONTROL.
He knows what he’s doing.
No matter how disassociated from reality my husband may be, appear to be, or become, no one can legally say that he is mentally ill unless he is diagnosed with an independent and different psychiatric disorder. He’s a perfectly sane, controlling, abusive man. When it suits him.
He acts crazy and I feel crazy. Maybe my husband isn’t mentally ill, but his behavior has certainly caused me to doubt my sanity. Is this crazy or what?!