Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook
A Comprehensive Plan to Help Keep You Safer Whether You Stay or Leave
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The Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook, now in its Fourth Edition, gives you the tools to build a safety plan that fits your actual life. It won’t hand you a finished plan. A plan written for a stranger doesn’t hold up in your house, with your kids, your work schedule, your car, your abuser.
What this does is show you what to think about, explain the parts that need explaining, and give you the pages to write your own answers down. You end up with a plan that’s yours, built on what you know about your situation better than anyone else does.
It doesn’t ask you to decide anything before you can use it, and it keeps working as your situation changes.
Purchase “Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook: Stay Safer Whether You Stay or Leave” $13.00
The Workbook helps you plan; the Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log helps you keep track of what’s happening along the way. Buy them together for $19, $3 less than buying separately.
What’s Inside
It starts fast, then goes deep. If today is bad, you can use the first section tonight and come back to the rest later.
- A Short Safety Plan to start with, something you can fill out in one sitting: warning signs, a phone number list, and a promise to yourself. This is the quick version, meant to get something in place today. The sections below are where you build the full plan.
- Safety While Living with an Abuser: what to do before, during, and after abusive episodes, increasing your safety at home, and a full section on tech-facilitated abuse, phone monitoring, AirTags, smart home devices, connected cars, AI-generated images.
- The Safest Ways to Leave: what to prepare, which documents to gather, and steps toward financial independence.
- Safety After Leaving: securing your home, staying safe at work, safe custody exchanges, and protecting your emotional health.
- An appendix on identifying abuse, personal boundaries, and a full list of cited sources.
It’s not legal or financial advice, and it doesn’t replace an advocate, doctor, or attorney. It’s a place to start, and a place to come back to as things change.
Written by Kellie Jo Holly Close, who has worked in domestic violence advocacy since founding VerbalAbuseJournals.com in 2008.
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Purchase “Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook: Stay Safer Whether You Stay or Leave” $13.00
A Few Things People Wonder
Do I need to have decided to leave to use this? No. Most of the Workbook is written for people still living with an abuser, not just people who’ve already left.
Is this a finished plan or something I fill in? Something you fill in. It gives you the questions, the explanations, and the pages. The plan that comes out of it is yours, because you’re the one who knows your situation.
Is this the same as the Amazon version? Same content, Fourth Edition. This is the direct digital download; Kindle and bound paperback editions are also available on Amazon if you’d rather read it there.
What if my situation changes? That’s what it’s built for. Come back to it as things shift, whether that means staying longer than you planned or leaving sooner than you thought.
Do I need a lawyer or advocate to use this? No, though it’s not a replacement for one either. It’s a place to start, and something to bring to that conversation if and when you have it.