A domestic violence safety plan can save your life (and your sanity) while living in an abusive relationship or while you plan to leave.
My Department of Social Services counselor has told me that it’s okay for me not to leave this relationship, this marriage, this family. I don’t have to LEAVE just because I know what’s going on. It’s better to plan and think through a domestic violence safety plan than to pick up and leave but have to go back because you weren’t prepared.
When I left, I wasn’t prepared. My emergency plan assumed that I would stay with him until completing my bachelor’s degree. Part of me felt like I was betraying my husband in creating the safety plan. Writing it out felt horrible, and I wrote about my mistakes in “Emergency Plan = Emotional Pain”.
Your Domestic Violence Safety Plan
It is very important that you keep your safety plan confidential, too. Be very careful who you ask to help you plan your safety. Make sure the people you trust will not run back to your abuser and spill the beans. Even if you’re planning to stay, your abuser will not like that you’ve talked to anyone about what he does.
I received a safety plan through the Army (DD Form 2893), but it didn’t help me think through my safety while living with my abuser. I did create a safety plan to share with you that will help you to stay safe while living with your abuser and guide you toward planning a safe escape when (and if) you’re ready.
Download the Verbal Abuse Journal Safety Plan
As good as I think my safety plan is, I highly recommend that you speak with a counselor or hotline representative too. They have done this sort of planning before, and talking with them will make your planning easier and less stressful to complete.
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Many of my facebook friends have created their own safety plan, and many will be willing to help guide you through the process, if you ask.
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