Mental, emotional and verbal abuse are types of domestic violence. What is verbal abuse? Verbal abuse is offensive language and behaviors designed to humiliate and gain power over another person.
Abusers communicate verbal abuse through threatening behavior and words. Our minds are powerful interpreters of body language, and the slightest movement can convey a threat or secret message to the abuser’s victim. It’s not important what bystanders hear or see, it’s how the victim interprets the words and actions conveyed by their abuser that matter.
What is verbal abuse? Another answer is verbal abuse is a complicated and sometimes secret language and behavior set that an abuser uses to control the victim. Verbal abuse is also a control tactic that will eventually lead to physical violence in intimate relationships.
Why is verbal abuse important for everyone to understand? We must all understand what verbal abuse is so we can recognize it if someone uses it against us and then react properly to it (See Verbal Abuse and How to Identify It – each page gives suggestions on how to react to each type of verbal abuse). If you cannot recognize verbal abuse, you are likely to be easily manipulated by the person using it (partner, co-worker, etc.).
My ex-husband used verbal abuse to manipulate me almost every day of our 17 year marriage. Before I knew my ex-husband used verbal abuse to control me, I believed many of the things he said about and to me. I believed him. I also confused myself by trying to figure out where I went wrong instead of recognizing that he was wrong.
I’ve realized that part of the reason I didn’t know he abused me was because I didn’t have the vocabulary to describe what was happening to me. Being able to name my abuser’s verbal abuse tactics was my first step to freedom.
So, What is Verbal Abuse Again?
- Verbal abuse is offensive language and behaviors designed to humiliate and gain power over another person.
- Verbal abuse is a complicated and sometimes secret language and behavior set that an abuser uses to control the victim.
- Verbal abuse is a control technique that leads to physical violence
Want More Explanation of What Is Verbal Abuse?
- Read True Stories of Abuse
- Click to Learn the Types of Verbal Abuse
- Read these examples of Things Abusers Say and Do.