My Verbally Abusive Marriage » My Verbally Abusive Marriage http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage ...and what I'm doing in it Sun, 20 May 2012 19:11:50 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= Cycle of Abuse and The Goose Who Laid The Golden Egg http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2012/05/14/cycle-abuse-goose-golden-egg/ http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2012/05/14/cycle-abuse-goose-golden-egg/#comments Mon, 14 May 2012 14:21:16 +0000 Kellie Jo Holly http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1998 ShareWritten November 2009 while still married to my husband: Abuse is wildly twisted and warps the minds and hearts of everyone it touches. The ones who we call abusers are as tortured as the ones we call victims. There is no excuse for any abuse one person afflicts upon another. It is not noble or [...]
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