Steve’s Story of Abuse
Steve submitted a testimonial of his abusive experience. His emotions include anger, sadness and confusion. Steve mentions that he is in the “personal responsibility” stage as it pertains to his abusive marriage.
The responsibility for abusing falls directly on the shoulders of the perpetrator, not the victim. Yet so many victims (me too!) want to somehow make the abuse “our fault”. I think that I wanted to accept responsibility for the abuse because if I caused it, then I could end it.
Sadly, accepting responsibility for things we’re not responsible for doesn’t fix any problem.
I didn’t cause him to be abusive. I can’t make him change. When I took the responsibility for his actions, then he was able to act that way consequence free.
Despite what the abuser says, you cannot make them abuse you. You cannot make them act any certain way. The abuser is responsible for the abuse.
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February 6th, 2012 at 3:25 AM
Such a good story for taking inspiration and experience for real life. I like to honor Steve for this. Well shared and highly looking forward for next story update.