Jennifer felt trapped, ashamed, and helpless. She writes:
I first knew the first time he laid his hands on me, but always excused it – I always blamed myself for saying/doing something wrong, otherwise it wouldn’t have happened. The emotional/mental abuse took longer for me to figure out, but I knew something wasn’t right, the way he treated me was wrong. Eventually, during a too-short breakup, I labeled him as having a personality disorder…it wasn’t until in the last few weeks I’ve been researching mental abuse and recognizing the patterns.