http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/07/03/carolyns-abuse-testimonial/ ...and what I'm doing in it Sat, 12 May 2012 04:16:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/07/03/carolyns-abuse-testimonial/comment-page-1/#comment-3133 Carolyn Sat, 18 Jun 2011 20:32:41 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1522#comment-3133 The other I day I mentioned to him I had seen a garnet ring in Costco I really liked as our anniversary is coming up. Its not real expensive. His comment was " OK I will buy you the ring IF between now and our anniversary you learn how to use the weed eater and you will do it my way like I tell you and I don't want to hear any goddamn lip from you !" Wow. I have been having to do all the lawn mowing and yard work because he is now physically unable to. Whenever I mow the lawn he watches me like a hawk and criticizes how I do it. I could hire a gardener to do it but to save us money I do it myself, yet he still attacks me. He criticizes his grand kids when they do it and he criticizes the gardener we have had do it a few times. No one does things perfect like he does ! I have hesitated using the weed eater because its just one more thing he will be on my ass about- I don't do it good enough.You would think now that his physical condition has deteriorated he would appreciate all my help-but no. As for the ring-what kind of gift would that be ! I don't even want it now--every time I would look at it I'd think of his words and what I had to do to "earn it". I 'll buy it myself ! F*ck him ! Something strange has happened over the last year-he has various medical issues but one of his problems is he has developed a constant burning in his mouth-the doctors cannot figure out what it is. I can't help but think that it is God's way of dealing with him ! All these years his mouth has been an instrument of torment to me and now he is being tormented with that same mouth ! The other I day I mentioned to him I had seen a garnet ring in Costco I really liked as our anniversary is coming up. Its not real expensive. His comment was ” OK I will buy you the ring IF between now and our anniversary you learn how to use the weed eater and you will do it my way like I tell you and I don’t want to hear any goddamn lip from you !” Wow. I have been having to do all the lawn mowing and yard work because he is now physically unable to. Whenever I mow the lawn he watches me like a hawk and criticizes how I do it. I could hire a gardener to do it but to save us money I do it myself, yet he still attacks me. He criticizes his grand kids when they do it and he criticizes the gardener we have had do it a few times. No one does things perfect like he does ! I have hesitated using the weed eater because its just one more thing he will be on my ass about- I don’t do it good enough.You would think now that his physical condition has deteriorated he would appreciate all my help-but no. As for the ring-what kind of gift would that be ! I don’t even want it now–every time I would look at it I’d think of his words and what I had to do to “earn it”. I ‘ll buy it myself ! F*ck him ! Something strange has happened over the last year-he has various medical issues but one of his problems is he has developed a constant burning in his mouth-the doctors cannot figure out what it is. I can’t help but think that it is God’s way of dealing with him ! All these years his mouth has been an instrument of torment to me and now he is being tormented with that same mouth !

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