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	<title>Comments on: I&#8217;m Not That Person&#8230;Yet</title>
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	<description>...and what I&#039;m doing in it</description>
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		<title>By: Me</title>
		<link>http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/07/02/not-that-person/comment-page-1/#comment-1392</link>
		<dc:creator>Me</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 03 Jul 2010 14:39:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Actually, there is no cause for alarm. I would have dismissed her comment as you did if I hadn&#039;t had the same message from the higher power and felt a waning of the emotions already. Her comment simply validated externally what was already going on inside.

I think that our lack of phone calls the past two weeks have eroded your &quot;up to the minute&quot; status, and that you really need to call me so I can fill you in! Or I&#039;ll call you ;)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Actually, there is no cause for alarm. I would have dismissed her comment as you did if I hadn&#8217;t had the same message from the higher power and felt a waning of the emotions already. Her comment simply validated externally what was already going on inside.</p>
<p>I think that our lack of phone calls the past two weeks have eroded your &#8220;up to the minute&#8221; status, and that you really need to call me so I can fill you in! Or I&#8217;ll call you <img src='http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Erin</title>
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		<dc:creator>Erin</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 03 Jul 2010 13:17:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Sorry - I didn&#039;t change my website in the above post. ;&#124;

I gotta take the advertising where I can get it, and since you are my sister, I can do this on your site...</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sorry &#8211; I didn&#8217;t change my website in the above post. ;|</p>
<p>I gotta take the advertising where I can get it, and since you are my sister, I can do this on your site&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Erin</title>
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		<dc:creator>Erin</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 03 Jul 2010 13:16:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Damn your therapist.  How dare she take that from you?  It&#039;s like being told there is no Santa.  Who would do that?  Santa Claus exists inside each and every one of us - and you had a blissful thing going on inside of you.  You was living and doing in a way that gave you what you were denied for so many, many years.  You deserve that feeling.  How dare ANYBODY give you the notion that it isn&#039;t &quot;real&quot;.

Reality is what you make it.  Each persons reality is different from another&#039;s.  That is what makes us unique.  That is what makes us each see the same situation in different ways.  

I would much rather her said, &quot;Chances are, after you spend much needed time with yourself, your perceptions might change a little bit.  But for now, take the ride you are on; because it is right where you need to be.&quot;

Who out there WOULDN&#039;T want to live with these feelings on a daily basis:&quot;giddy emotions, loving dreams, and happy thoughts within me&quot;?  We all should be so lucky!  

Who cares what those emotions are based on?  Who, really, are you &quot;hurting&quot;?  You are simply becoming the person that has been chained up.  You are re-blossoming into a person you want to become.

Like a flower through the season of warmth, you start out fresh, vibrant, and green.  Through the heat of summer, you must grow your roots deeper to endure the scorch of the heat and little rain.  However, you still remain beautiful, vibrant, and full of life... just more stable.

No need to read into this any more than what it is.  Winter doesn&#039;t have to come.  But, we all experience those times when we naturally go into ourselves just a little bit so we can come out more alive after the last snow.  It is not a &quot;death&quot; of the flower (you), it is a time of peace to regather and renew.  Remember though, winter comes at many different times throughout the world.  There is not &quot;set&quot; day for it.  It just happens when the time is right.

Don&#039;t allow your therapist to force that time on you now.  You have to allow your season to come when it is ready.  Anything else is unnatural. 

With all of this being said, if your time has come to move onto deeper roots, so be it.  I just hope the timing is your own choice; and not a thought that somebody else planted in your mind.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Damn your therapist.  How dare she take that from you?  It&#8217;s like being told there is no Santa.  Who would do that?  Santa Claus exists inside each and every one of us &#8211; and you had a blissful thing going on inside of you.  You was living and doing in a way that gave you what you were denied for so many, many years.  You deserve that feeling.  How dare ANYBODY give you the notion that it isn&#8217;t &#8220;real&#8221;.</p>
<p>Reality is what you make it.  Each persons reality is different from another&#8217;s.  That is what makes us unique.  That is what makes us each see the same situation in different ways.  </p>
<p>I would much rather her said, &#8220;Chances are, after you spend much needed time with yourself, your perceptions might change a little bit.  But for now, take the ride you are on; because it is right where you need to be.&#8221;</p>
<p>Who out there WOULDN&#8217;T want to live with these feelings on a daily basis:&#8221;giddy emotions, loving dreams, and happy thoughts within me&#8221;?  We all should be so lucky!  </p>
<p>Who cares what those emotions are based on?  Who, really, are you &#8220;hurting&#8221;?  You are simply becoming the person that has been chained up.  You are re-blossoming into a person you want to become.</p>
<p>Like a flower through the season of warmth, you start out fresh, vibrant, and green.  Through the heat of summer, you must grow your roots deeper to endure the scorch of the heat and little rain.  However, you still remain beautiful, vibrant, and full of life&#8230; just more stable.</p>
<p>No need to read into this any more than what it is.  Winter doesn&#8217;t have to come.  But, we all experience those times when we naturally go into ourselves just a little bit so we can come out more alive after the last snow.  It is not a &#8220;death&#8221; of the flower (you), it is a time of peace to regather and renew.  Remember though, winter comes at many different times throughout the world.  There is not &#8220;set&#8221; day for it.  It just happens when the time is right.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t allow your therapist to force that time on you now.  You have to allow your season to come when it is ready.  Anything else is unnatural. </p>
<p>With all of this being said, if your time has come to move onto deeper roots, so be it.  I just hope the timing is your own choice; and not a thought that somebody else planted in your mind.</p>
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		<title>By: Me</title>
		<link>http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/07/02/not-that-person/comment-page-1/#comment-1387</link>
		<dc:creator>Me</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Jul 2010 20:30:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wish-craft is what Tabitha learned to do first as a baby witch on &quot;Bewitched&quot; :) I think it&#039;s also the title of a book. So I did&#039;t come up with it on my own - it&#039;s been around, but it fits.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wish-craft is what Tabitha learned to do first as a baby witch on &#8220;Bewitched&#8221; <img src='http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  I think it&#8217;s also the title of a book. So I did&#8217;t come up with it on my own &#8211; it&#8217;s been around, but it fits.</p>
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		<title>By: newdirection</title>
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		<dc:creator>newdirection</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Jul 2010 17:12:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>In the space between who you are and who you are destined to be, i hope you find the arms of the powerful and loving God, the one who will be your husband and lover, who will show you your worth, an escasty beyond dreams and visions, the one who will fill you with love and purpose and set your path straight to the place and person you were always meant to be...in time.  You are part of a sublime romance, a divinely given love relationship which asks nothing in return but your heart.  You WILL find your way.  remain prayfully open to what comes next.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In the space between who you are and who you are destined to be, i hope you find the arms of the powerful and loving God, the one who will be your husband and lover, who will show you your worth, an escasty beyond dreams and visions, the one who will fill you with love and purpose and set your path straight to the place and person you were always meant to be&#8230;in time.  You are part of a sublime romance, a divinely given love relationship which asks nothing in return but your heart.  You WILL find your way.  remain prayfully open to what comes next.</p>
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		<title>By: PrincessLuceval</title>
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		<dc:creator>PrincessLuceval</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Jul 2010 17:07:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Kellie, I love your term &quot;wish-craft.&quot; It is so, so true.

And remember, mud is much more fertile ground for growing things than pure shit is. Bloom and grow!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Kellie, I love your term &#8220;wish-craft.&#8221; It is so, so true.</p>
<p>And remember, mud is much more fertile ground for growing things than pure shit is. Bloom and grow!</p>
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