Comments on: Semantics http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/14/semantics/ ...and what I'm doing in it Sat, 28 Aug 2010 19:29:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Me http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/14/semantics/comment-page-1/#comment-1116 Me Wed, 24 Feb 2010 06:07:07 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1254#comment-1116 PrincessLuceval, I kind of like the word "target". But unlike a real target, we have legs and can get the heck away! PrincessLuceval, I kind of like the word “target”. But unlike a real target, we have legs and can get the heck away!

]]> By: Me http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/14/semantics/comment-page-1/#comment-1100 Me Mon, 22 Feb 2010 05:03:10 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1254#comment-1100 Here's an excellent article on exactly what I was talking about when I said, "Abuse's two victims will stay silent about the torment they inflict upon one another." http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201002/victim-identity-im-not-okay-youre-more-not-okay Here’s an excellent article on exactly what I was talking about when I said, “Abuse’s two victims will stay silent about the torment they inflict upon one another.”
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201002/victim-identity-im-not-okay-youre-more-not-okay

]]> By: PrincessLuceval http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/14/semantics/comment-page-1/#comment-1076 PrincessLuceval Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:10:01 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1254#comment-1076 There's a great website which uses the phrase You Are A Target, Not A Victim. "Target" isn't always correct, but quite often feels so. There’s a great website which uses the phrase You Are A Target, Not A Victim. “Target” isn’t always correct, but quite often feels so.

]]> By: quietone http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/14/semantics/comment-page-1/#comment-1054 quietone Tue, 16 Feb 2010 03:26:31 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1254#comment-1054 "Abuse’s two victims will stay silent about the torment they inflict upon one another." So right you are. The best I ever came up with was "I have expierienced abuse". It's inadequate. But there are not many people I will discuss the situation with. Even other's who have experienced abuse seldom understand that the abuse is inflicted and recieved by both parties. I also hate "victim" and "survior" both leave a person sounding helpless and inactive. But it is not that way. I dont blame myself but I recognize that I have been an active participant in my own abuse. “Abuse’s two victims will stay silent about the torment they inflict upon one another.”

So right you are.

The best I ever came up with was “I have expierienced abuse”.

It’s inadequate. But there are not many people I will discuss the situation with. Even other’s who have experienced abuse seldom understand that the abuse is inflicted and recieved by both parties.

I also hate “victim” and “survior” both leave a person sounding helpless and inactive. But it is not that way.

I dont blame myself but I recognize that I have been an active participant in my own abuse.

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