http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/10/tired-weak/ ...and what I'm doing in it Sat, 28 Aug 2010 19:29:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/10/tired-weak/comment-page-1/#comment-1021 Me Sat, 13 Feb 2010 00:43:26 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1244#comment-1021 Divorce, I hope, is the final act. It does seem violent. You sound angry today; I suppose that anger goes along with the rest of it. I don't always feel empowered, but I keep moving forward. Looking to the horizon. What's on your horizon? What do you want for yourself? Divorce, I hope, is the final act. It does seem violent. You sound angry today; I suppose that anger goes along with the rest of it. I don’t always feel empowered, but I keep moving forward. Looking to the horizon. What’s on your horizon? What do you want for yourself?

]]> http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/10/tired-weak/comment-page-1/#comment-1018 newdirection Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:54:14 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1244#comment-1018 I've learned that being forced to divorce your abusive husband is the final act of violence. You were left, by his abuse and his behaviors, but you are now forced to make this choice and to do the emotional and logistical work that goes along with it. Bare the guilt, shame, sadness, ambivlanece and all ther other fun emotions that come with being forced out of a marriage due to abuse. When I'm not in a self-pitying mood, I try to act like divorcing my abusive stbx it is empowering, and then hope that I'll believe the show. It sucks. I’ve learned that being forced to divorce your abusive husband is the final act of violence. You were left, by his abuse and his behaviors, but you are now forced to make this choice and to do the emotional and logistical work that goes along with it. Bare the guilt, shame, sadness, ambivlanece and all ther other fun emotions that come with being forced out of a marriage due to abuse. When I’m not in a self-pitying mood, I try to act like divorcing my abusive stbx it is empowering, and then hope that I’ll believe the show. It sucks.

]]> http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/10/tired-weak/comment-page-1/#comment-1014 Kunjii Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:33:07 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1244#comment-1014 yep, you're gonna have really awful days; and you might start to regret what you did, but you never know...this MIGHT also be the wake up call that you both needed to change your lives and re-commit to each other. If you really love each other it could happen. If not, go in peace. Each of you deserves happiness. Spending six months or a year apart may actually make you appreciate each other, or it may open your eyes to all the possibilties of happiness out there for you to explore. Take it one day at a time. yep, you’re gonna have really awful days; and you might start to regret what you did, but you never know…this MIGHT also be the wake up call that you both needed to change your lives and re-commit to each other. If you really love each other it could happen. If not, go in peace. Each of you deserves happiness. Spending six months or a year apart may actually make you appreciate each other, or it may open your eyes to all the possibilties of happiness out there for you to explore. Take it one day at a time.

]]> http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/10/tired-weak/comment-page-1/#comment-1010 PrincessLuceval Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:22:40 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1244#comment-1010 Oh, I'm so sorry. I feel your pain in your writing. Baby steps. Tiny steps forward. Stop and rest a lot. Oh, I’m so sorry. I feel your pain in your writing. Baby steps. Tiny steps forward. Stop and rest a lot.

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