Comments on: Apology At the End http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/08/apology/ ...and what I'm doing in it Tue, 06 Jul 2010 12:32:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Me http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/08/apology/comment-page-1/#comment-988 Me Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:36:55 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1242#comment-988 Sorry Ramona. I did think you were one of Will's sisters. In one of your posts you made reference to TX giving custody to an alcoholic mother bent on suicide. I wrongly assumed that <em>you</em> were the mother you were referring to. I figured you were using yourself in that example of TX justice. The mother you're referring to has since made great strides in establishing mental health, (or so I've been told) so I felt that you must be her using yourself as the example. So no, I have no idea who you are, Ramona nor who your family could be. Our exchange has been beneficial to me; it actually helped me to see myself (and shortcomings) more clearly. Perhaps, after I remove this log from my own eye I will discover other flaws to work on. I don't know how long it will take to establish new habits, only that I will and that I have a long life ahead of me to do so. Perhaps later in my life, we can reconnect as something other than the strangers we are now. Sorry Ramona. I did think you were one of Will’s sisters. In one of your posts you made reference to TX giving custody to an alcoholic mother bent on suicide. I wrongly assumed that you were the mother you were referring to. I figured you were using yourself in that example of TX justice.

The mother you’re referring to has since made great strides in establishing mental health, (or so I’ve been told) so I felt that you must be her using yourself as the example.

So no, I have no idea who you are, Ramona nor who your family could be.

Our exchange has been beneficial to me; it actually helped me to see myself (and shortcomings) more clearly. Perhaps, after I remove this log from my own eye I will discover other flaws to work on. I don’t know how long it will take to establish new habits, only that I will and that I have a long life ahead of me to do so.

Perhaps later in my life, we can reconnect as something other than the strangers we are now.

]]> By: Ramona Vickers http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/08/apology/comment-page-1/#comment-985 Ramona Vickers Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:59:02 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1242#comment-985 I actually agree with quietone. You owe me no apology. I wish I could tell you who I am. Unfortunately, I agreed not to get involved. Now I see that would have been the best thing to do. I can say this, I understand a family like Will's. When you married him you were told you would be a part of that family. But, in reality, you were never aloud inside the circle. Sometimes you stand outside the circle, like a kid at a candy store, face pressed against the glass, wishing you were a part, and others, thanking your lucky stars you aren't. But never truly feeling a part of it. I actually agree with quietone. You owe me no apology. I wish I could tell you who I am. Unfortunately, I agreed not to get involved. Now I see that would have been the best thing to do. I can say this, I understand a family like Will’s. When you married him you were told you would be a part of that family. But, in reality, you were never aloud inside the circle. Sometimes you stand outside the circle, like a kid at a candy store, face pressed against the glass, wishing you were a part, and others, thanking your lucky stars you aren’t. But never truly feeling a part of it.

]]> By: Quietone http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/08/apology/comment-page-1/#comment-984 Quietone Mon, 08 Feb 2010 15:53:37 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1242#comment-984 You did not lash out - you defended yourself. You did not lash out – you defended yourself.

]]> By: Ramona Vickers http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/08/apology/comment-page-1/#comment-982 Ramona Vickers Mon, 08 Feb 2010 12:02:04 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1242#comment-982 I'm dense. Your last post is based you believing that I am part of Will's family. I am not. I grew up in a more passive-aggressive world, and also learned that behavior. Which I also displayed in my responses to your blog. I am sorry for that. Bad habits are hard to break. I’m dense. Your last post is based you believing that I am part of Will’s family. I am not. I grew up in a more passive-aggressive world, and also learned that behavior. Which I also displayed in my responses to your blog. I am sorry for that. Bad habits are hard to break.

]]> By: Ramona Vickers http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/02/08/apology/comment-page-1/#comment-981 Ramona Vickers Mon, 08 Feb 2010 11:44:28 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1242#comment-981 She is right in saying the last post is how I see her family. “Growing Up Co-Dependent” is focused on mine. This statement is strange. You don't know my family. She is right in saying the last post is how I see her family. “Growing Up Co-Dependent” is focused on mine. This statement is strange. You don’t know my family.

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