Comments on: Give ‘em to ME http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/01/06/give-em/ ...and what I'm doing in it Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:25:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Erin http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/01/06/give-em/comment-page-1/#comment-820 Erin Thu, 07 Jan 2010 13:32:29 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1075#comment-820 "...I am more than a little fearful to discover that who I may be is powerful." It is time to close your eyes, shake your head, and re-open those eyes to the reality of who you are. It is time to get your NEW perspective of who you are (the one I have seen since we were kids). What I am saying is that you have fallen. It is time to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and be honest with who you KNOW you are deep down. The parts that your husband hasn't been able to touch. Dig deep in there and find that glowing ball of happiness, power, love, excitement, etc. that IS STILL THERE! Grab that glowing ball and nurture it like a sick kitten. Pay attention to it, stroke it, feed it, and love it. Whatever you do, don't let it go. Your love and attention to this buried piece of yourself will grow; and it will become stronger until you finally know that it is who YOU ARE. I sure do love you. I won't let you forget... “…I am more than a little fearful to discover that who I may be is powerful.”

It is time to close your eyes, shake your head, and re-open those eyes to the reality of who you are. It is time to get your NEW perspective of who you are (the one I have seen since we were kids).

What I am saying is that you have fallen. It is time to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and be honest with who you KNOW you are deep down. The parts that your husband hasn’t been able to touch. Dig deep in there and find that glowing ball of happiness, power, love, excitement, etc. that IS STILL THERE!

Grab that glowing ball and nurture it like a sick kitten. Pay attention to it, stroke it, feed it, and love it. Whatever you do, don’t let it go.

Your love and attention to this buried piece of yourself will grow; and it will become stronger until you finally know that it is who YOU ARE.

I sure do love you. I won’t let you forget…

]]> By: tiffany http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/01/06/give-em/comment-page-1/#comment-817 tiffany Thu, 07 Jan 2010 04:54:34 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1075#comment-817 Oh Kellie. I check in here often, wanting to see how you are doing and hoping I can offer some encouragement. And I usually leave stumped. I just struggle to understand it all. How you can believe any of those nonsense words for years and years. How you can stay married to someone who does not seem to adore you. I just want all the best for you. Life, marriage, the day to day...does not have to be so difficult. You dont have to feel tortured in your own head. It can be better than that and I wish that for you. Quietone said it well. But I will also say that you are talented and beautiful and interesting and deep and determined. On and on. But that is the start of what I see in you. I hope as you figure out who you ARE instead of who you are NOT, you discover all these things and more. I think you already know some of it and I hope those things are confirmed over and over and new things are discovered. Great things. Mostly I hadnt commented for a while and wanted you to know I think of you often and hope all is well enough for you. Oh Kellie.

I check in here often, wanting to see how you are doing and hoping I can offer some encouragement. And I usually leave stumped. I just struggle to understand it all. How you can believe any of those nonsense words for years and years. How you can stay married to someone who does not seem to adore you. I just want all the best for you. Life, marriage, the day to day…does not have to be so difficult. You dont have to feel tortured in your own head. It can be better than that and I wish that for you.

Quietone said it well. But I will also say that you are talented and beautiful and interesting and deep and determined. On and on. But that is the start of what I see in you.

I hope as you figure out who you ARE instead of who you are NOT, you discover all these things and more. I think you already know some of it and I hope those things are confirmed over and over and new things are discovered. Great things.

Mostly I hadnt commented for a while and wanted you to know I think of you often and hope all is well enough for you.

]]> By: quietone http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2010/01/06/give-em/comment-page-1/#comment-816 quietone Thu, 07 Jan 2010 03:36:04 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1075#comment-816 Oh yes, I was talking about a similar subject today. I was discussing with a friend how the abuse in my marriage is directly related to my lack of sense of self. But in order to even recognize that - I had to find myself first. Buddha said (close anyway) "you are exactly who you believe yourself to be" I love those words. I can DECIDE who I am. I am NOT bound by chance or other's assessments of me. I CHOOSE who I am. Let me get you started - kind, loyal, smart, insightful, brave, dedicated, hard worker, funny, creative, caring,loving, beautiful, Oh yes, I was talking about a similar subject today. I was discussing with a friend how the abuse in my marriage is directly related to my lack of sense of self. But in order to even recognize that – I had to find myself first.

Buddha said (close anyway) “you are exactly who you believe yourself to be”

I love those words. I can DECIDE who I am. I am NOT bound by chance or other’s assessments of me. I CHOOSE who I am.

Let me get you started – kind, loyal, smart, insightful, brave, dedicated, hard worker, funny, creative, caring,loving, beautiful,

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