http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/12/04/calm/ ...and what I'm doing in it Sat, 12 May 2012 04:16:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/12/04/calm/comment-page-1/#comment-752 Meredith Mon, 07 Dec 2009 21:28:53 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1014#comment-752 In a very similar situation. The anxiety of him coming home from being away coupled with so much hope and intent of things going well is always dispelled by the reality of who he is. my most successful reaction has been to remain calm. When I feel enraged and depressed because of things he has said, it only gives him the power. When I have NO reaction other than the desire to be around him less, while keeping a positive attitude with everyone else, thats the only thing that makes him look inward. Also, every time he blows up, cussing etc. I write it down, date it and hang it up in a room in the house. That way when he denies any verbal abuse, the undeniable, frequent,facts are there. I don,t take them down. I don't feel that I have anything to explain, those are questions for him. In a very similar situation. The anxiety of him coming home from being away coupled with so much hope and intent of things going well is always dispelled by the reality of who he is. my most successful reaction has been to remain calm. When I feel enraged and depressed because of things he has said, it only gives him the power.
When I have NO reaction other than the desire to be around him less, while keeping a positive attitude with everyone else, thats the only thing that makes him look inward. Also, every time he blows up, cussing etc. I write it down, date it and hang it up in a room in the house. That way when he denies any verbal abuse, the undeniable, frequent,facts are there. I don,t take them down. I don’t feel that I have anything to explain, those are questions for him.

]]> http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/12/04/calm/comment-page-1/#comment-746 tori Sun, 06 Dec 2009 04:04:27 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=1014#comment-746 Of course it won't be easy, but sound like today you laid the very beginnings of a new foundation. May the resulting structure be strong and true... Of course it won’t be easy, but sound like today you laid the very beginnings of a new foundation. May the resulting structure be strong and true…

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