Comments on: Abusive Nonsense http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/11/13/abusive-nonsense/ ...and what I'm doing in it Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:25:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Donnalee http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/11/13/abusive-nonsense/comment-page-1/#comment-685 Donnalee Sat, 14 Nov 2009 07:32:54 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=951#comment-685 Gee, how can you tell I'm feeling down. Had a horrible incident this evening. Just so damn tired. Gee, how can you tell I’m feeling down. Had a horrible incident this evening. Just so damn tired.

]]> By: Donnalee http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/11/13/abusive-nonsense/comment-page-1/#comment-684 Donnalee Sat, 14 Nov 2009 06:57:08 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=951#comment-684 In other words, I’ll detach. With time, I’ll more easily detach from my husband, too. This is where the loneliness comes in, when you start to fear that because you have chosen to live with this man, will you die of a broken heart? Is this any way to live? You don't have friends and family around because they simply cannot understand why we haven't left. They get tired of seeing you so sad and that your light has gone out. They feel helpless but feel that they just can't support you anymore. What does that mean? What do I do...do I stay and fight because I love him and I know that there is a wonderful man in there...I've seen it. Do I plan to get out, organize things, even if it takes a year or two. Is that how I can survive his abuse, will this get me by? In other words, I’ll detach. With time, I’ll more easily detach from my husband, too.

This is where the loneliness comes in, when you start to fear that because you have chosen to live with this man, will you die of a broken heart? Is this any way to live?

You don’t have friends and family around because they simply cannot understand why we haven’t left. They get tired of seeing you so sad and that your light has gone out. They feel helpless but feel that they just can’t support you anymore.

What does that mean? What do I do…do I stay and fight because I love him and I know that there is a wonderful man in there…I’ve seen it. Do I plan to get out, organize things, even if it takes a year or two. Is that how I can survive his abuse, will this get me by?

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