Comments on: The Gift http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/10/23/gift/ ...and what I'm doing in it Sat, 28 Aug 2010 19:29:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Erin http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/10/23/gift/comment-page-1/#comment-568 Erin Sat, 24 Oct 2009 13:58:30 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=866#comment-568 You know, I always wondered why you picked Will... he is TOTALLY different that the boyfriends you had while growing up. I mean TOTALLY. As a kid, YOU was always the one "in charge". I would look to you for EVERYTHING. I put a lot of pressure on you to be perfect - after all, you ARE perfect in my eyes. You are my big sister! Then, the second you got out on your own, you found somebody that would take care of YOU. You didn't have to take care of yourself anymore. No more pressure to be perfect. He did all of that for you. He told you how to be. He told you what he expected from you. YOU did not have to think about it anymore. If my theory is right - then it makes perfect sense why you are asking this question now, as you are emerging from your cocoon. You are finally finding that girl from 25 years ago. Only now, you have the wisdom of a woman. You can use that wisdom to propel yourself through this situation. You know, I always wondered why you picked Will… he is TOTALLY different that the boyfriends you had while growing up. I mean TOTALLY.

As a kid, YOU was always the one “in charge”. I would look to you for EVERYTHING. I put a lot of pressure on you to be perfect – after all, you ARE perfect in my eyes. You are my big sister!

Then, the second you got out on your own, you found somebody that would take care of YOU. You didn’t have to take care of yourself anymore. No more pressure to be perfect. He did all of that for you. He told you how to be. He told you what he expected from you. YOU did not have to think about it anymore.

If my theory is right – then it makes perfect sense why you are asking this question now, as you are emerging from your cocoon.

You are finally finding that girl from 25 years ago. Only now, you have the wisdom of a woman. You can use that wisdom to propel yourself through this situation.

]]> By: Kellie Holly http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/10/23/gift/comment-page-1/#comment-648 Kellie Holly Fri, 23 Oct 2009 15:46:09 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=866#comment-648 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">blog_update The Gift: I’ve thought about it, and my root fear goes deeper than “Is he ri.. http://bit.ly/47zITq</span></span> blog_update The Gift: I’ve thought about it, and my root fear goes deeper than “Is he ri.. http://bit.ly/47zITq

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