Comments on: You Need Help! http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/06/03/you-need-help/ ...and what I'm doing in it Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:25:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Martha Trowbridge http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/06/03/you-need-help/comment-page-1/#comment-153 Martha Trowbridge Fri, 05 Jun 2009 00:30:33 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=378#comment-153 "I was just thinking about all the times my husband has pointed out my rape as being the underlying cause to our marriage problems. Last time it happened (December 08 I think), he printed out a list of “rape symptoms” from the Internet and yelled, “HERE! THIS IS YOU!” " Your vignette is a painful example of re-traumatization in marriage. Rather than double his efforts to treat his wife kindly, to respect her considerable emotional injuries, to render her home life the safe haven she so unequivocally, as a victim of violence, needs [and deserves], when a husband attacks his wife's vulnerabilities, he re-traumatizes his wife. Period. “I was just thinking about all the times my husband has pointed out my rape as being the underlying cause to our marriage problems. Last time it happened (December 08 I think), he printed out a list of “rape symptoms” from the Internet and yelled, “HERE! THIS IS YOU!” ”

Your vignette is a painful example of re-traumatization in marriage. Rather than double his efforts to treat his wife kindly, to respect her considerable emotional injuries, to render her home life the safe haven she so unequivocally, as a victim of violence, needs [and deserves], when a husband attacks his wife’s vulnerabilities, he re-traumatizes his wife. Period.

]]> By: Kellie Holly http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/2009/06/03/you-need-help/comment-page-1/#comment-638 Kellie Holly Wed, 03 Jun 2009 18:54:40 +0000 http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/?p=378#comment-638 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">blog_update You Need Help!: I was just thinking about all the times my husband has pointed out my rap.. http://tinyurl.com/q4qzek</span></span> blog_update You Need Help!: I was just thinking about all the times my husband has pointed out my rap.. http://tinyurl.com/q4qzek

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