Ten Rules To Live By
March 28, 2009
I posted this in response to a message at verbalabuse.com. This was a humorous thread.
10. I am not allowed to touch any guy except for his best friend, his father, and our children.
9. I am allowed to wear low-cut dresses when we go out, but he reserves the right to complain about it at any time because those are "his" boobies.
8. I am responsible enough to pay the bills, but when our bills vary by more than $5.00 from the previous month, he reserves the right to tell me that I don't know what I'm doing and must not be paying the bills correctly. Bill amounts should never vary month to month.
7. I am not allowed to disassemble any appliance in order to fix it or to assemble a prefabricated piece of furniture because only he can do those things correctly.
6. I am allowed to choose my own kitchen appliances if and only if he goes to the store with me because only he knows if the store is ripping us off or not.
5. I am a great mother! I am so great because he has given me the training I needed to become like his mother...Oh wait - no, I'm not always a great mother because sometimes his training is ruined by the interference of my screwed up thinking.
4. I am not allowed to complain about his drinking because I take a prescription pill for depression so I'm a hypocrite if I complain about his chosen "vice". And it is NOT true that drinking has caused our marriage more problems than my prescription medication - my perception is clouded by the effects of the medication, and he is really tired of dealing with it.
3. It is true that he is a chauvinist, and he is allowed to be that way because it's how he was raised and I knew it when I married him, so it's something I'm going to have to "get over."
2. He will not be happy until I "get over" this stupid idea that what he does and says is abusive. I am easily swayed by the opinions of doctors and authors and counselors who are only out to get my money and will tell me whatever I want to hear. Until I return to his way of thinking, he will continue to be unhappy (and therefore, just plain mean.)
1. Since he's been deployed, my decisions have not been in the best interests of the children. Therefore, there is to be no counseling and no more sharing with strangers the goings-on of our family. There is to be no more decision-making prior to checking with him, especially when it comes to extra-curricular activities such as going to the YMCA, or allowing the boys to make choices for themselves as to which activities they want to actively participate. If I make any more of these decisions without him, he is seriously going to risk damaging his career to request early R&R leave so he can come home and straighten things out before I make them worse.
Hmph.
copyright 2009 verbal abuse journals; all rights reserved.