What happened that made you decide to leave?
The name calling, his constant spending money on drinking, and his being drunk.
How did you feel about your abuser and/or your relationship in the days before you left?
I was over it. I had enough. I didn’t want to live that way anymore.
What three emotions did you most experience in the days closest to leaving abuse? How did you deal with them?
Fear, anxiety, but looking foreword to relief. I stayed in touch with my family and prayed a whole lot.
What planning did you do before you left? Who knew you were leaving besides you?
Just my family knew since they were helping me to get out.
What were the one or two BEST things you did before you left?
I followed through this time with going. I quit my job of over 10 years. I gave everything he had back. I didn’t want any of it.
If there was anything you wish you had not done before you left, what was it?
Nothing. My kids and I are doing great. That’s all that matters.
Is there anything else you would like to say?
I felt a huge relief after I left. It was tough the first few weeks, but as time went on I felt so much better about myself and my health improved as well. I am so thankful I have a great family who helped me get up and get out. It’s been almost 4 months and I have a great job and so many more goals that I am on my way to accomplish that I never thought I could do. Being called ignorant, bitch, stupid, and cunt had taken its toll on me. I am still taking things one day at a time. It has been quite a process.