He rages when I say he crossed a boundary & I cannot engage with him right now. A normal person would respect my wish. My abuser won’t – he lost control of me and the situation. He is pissed, but I am no where around to suffer the consequences of his wrath. Why? Because I told him “If you keep _____, then I’m walking to the neighbors.” And I do.
Living in abuse takes a thought out strategy. It’s not good to be surprised and thrown off balance all the time. Could you turn your abuser into a lab rat?
Al-Anon is helping me to detach from Will’s drinking, but I’m not liking it too much. I feel responsible for making him well and happy so he can be NICE.