Flat-Lining in Domestic Abuse Recovery

Stephen Covey says to “live out of your imagination, not your history.” Depression, suicidal thoughts, hate, despair and hopelessness result when I live out of the mindset of my past. It’s as if he is abusing me all over again.

Brainwashing and Intelligence: So Natural a Caveman Can Do It

The effects of any type of abuse on your thinking is summed up in one word: BRAINWASHING. Don’t for one second believe that your abuser wasn’t smart enough to brainwash you. The ability to brainwash someone has nothing to do with smarts.

How to Heal From Brainwashing and Regain Control of Your Mind

Can you heal from brainwashing? Yes. Once you know you’ve experienced it, you can heal from brainwashing and recover from domestic abuse. First, learn how your abuser used brainwashing steps to bring you under control. Then learn self mind-control to undo the brainwashing. It will take less time to recover than it took to become brainwashed. The brainwashing […]

Observing But Not Participating In My Abuse

Therefore, I am finding that I am an emotional chameleon. I must learn to turn off my emotions and the thought train they trigger when I recognize abuse to protect myself and begin “observation mode”. This is not going to work for the long haul. I do not want to live my life connecting and disconnecting from the one I married. But for now and until I leave or he knocks off the abuse, it will have to work.

Cycle of Abuse Video

I wish I knew how to explain all of this without sounding like a crybaby or that I’m blaming my abuser for everything. I really wish I could come across as someone who knew exactly what she was doing and knew exactly what she was talking about and had the answers for everything…not that I want to be a know-it-all either, but, you know…

Mind Games: Use Them To Detach From Domestic Abuse

Living in abuse takes a thought out strategy. It’s not good to be surprised and thrown off balance all the time. Could you turn your abuser into a lab rat?

My Verbally Abusive Marriage Video

I’ve got so much goin’ for me. And you’ve got so much goin’ for you! But when the person you love most in the world, that you think is your other half, that you’ve been told you can trust, that he will always be there for you…when that person that you’ve given your mind and body and soul to takes your mind and soul, crumples them up in a little ball, and throws it away like it doesn’t matter to him?… It’s hard to love him anymore.

Psychobabble-If I Think It’s Me I Won’t See It’s YOU

Today, March 5, 2015, I reread this old post and saw it for what it was: I denied that I hurt because I lived n a horrible marriage with a horrible man who loved to turn my head around on me. He used me to distract myself from the shit he did. The shit he did was control, manipulate and abuse me and our boys.

Abuse Described In The Bible Proverbs 6:16-19

Proverbs 6:16-19: Looking inward to find the source of my pain I once again miss the forest for the trees. If I had once thought about my husband as I looked at the list of what God hates, maybe I could have realized he abused me sooner.