In 2002 Will re-joined the Army and we left Texas to begin our military life over again. Marked by Will’s deployment to Iraq in 2003 and his return to drinking in 2004, our family seemed to fall apart.
When he was 14, Marc took my van out and wrecked it. Fortunately no one was hurt, but the incident scared me. Marc also started using prescription pills and smoking pot, but I didn’t notice until much later when his grades dropped. I’d long ago found that Will was no help when it came to the emotional health of our boys. Eighty percent of the time if I asked him for help with the boys he abused either them or me. It was better to not ask.
Will’s drunken behavior woke me up somewhat to the fact that he’d never really changed while sober – he was mean all the time, but the drinking increased the frequency of his attacks.