I wrote this in my journal, but did I say it to him? Yes, I did.
He reacted with the same old mantra: “You don’t have a CLUE, Kellie, what it takes to think logically! You can’t imagine the pressure I’m under and I would appreciate it, if just once, you would do as I say!”
Abusive husbands want us to be, think, and do everything like they do so they don’t have to worry about what we’re “up to” when we’re apart. They use anger, false love, and many other kinds of manipulation to control us.
May 15, 1999
Will, I must be allowed to have my own ideas about everything.
Sometimes, my ideas will be the same as yours, and sometimes they won’t.
Please accept that fact. We don’t have to agree on everything; it can work out anyway.