Questions For Your Mentor

Someone with a belief system that goes against your own cannot advise you very well. Use these questions to open a dialogue with your mentor or therapist.It can be difficult to open up to a stranger – even a stranger who wants to help you! When you enter a professional therapeutic relationship, you have a right to know some things about your mentor or therapist outside of Verbal Abuse Journals Survivors’ Mentoring Program. Remember, you are hiring them. Or in the case of our free mentoring, you need the best person possible to help you. You the boss, so make sure you get helped by the best personnel available.

Prepare to interview your mentor by knowing what you want to ask your mentor or therapist. Here are some common questions you may want to know the answers to up front:

Experience With Abuse

  • Were you ever abused? How? How long were you in an abusive relationship?
  • What types of abuse did you experience?
  • How did you leave? What convinced you to leave? Did you try to work it out before leaving?


  • How much time have you spent working with victims of abuse?
  • What have you learned from them?
  • How do you stay on top of your domestic violence education?
  • What methods do you favor using to help people overcome abuse?


  • Do you have children? How old are they?
  • Did they live with your abuser? What were the family dynamics?
  • How do you educate them about abuse?


  • Do you feel close to God or your higher power? Do you feel comfortable talking with people outside of your religion or beliefs?
  • Are you able to understand differing viewpoints on religion?


  • What are your views on our society’s morals and/or actions concerning domestic violence?
  • Are you familiar with my culture?
  • Does it bother you that my abuser was the same sex as me?
  • Do you value my privacy? How?
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