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  • Healing Emotional Trauma in Recovery

    Healing Emotional Trauma in Recovery

    The Manitoba Trauma Information & Education Centre1 states the stages of healing emotional trauma are: Did you notice the cycle in domestic abuse recovery? The cycle of abuse spun you down to the depths of despair, but the cycle of domestic abuse recovery will raise you up. Yet the healing process is a cycle, and no one can…

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  • Too Fast Too Soon: A Commitment Red Flag

    Too Fast Too Soon: A Commitment Red Flag

    The too fast too soon red flag I mention in the following video has to do with If you feel either way, it is important to slow down. Take a breath alone. Let things settle. That person isn’t going anywhere if they are truly in love with you. Transcript Hello, my name is Kellie Jo Holly,…

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  • Top 12 Signs of Abuse in Your Future

    Top 12 Signs of Abuse in Your Future

    What are the signs of abuse to watch out for when you meet a new guy or gal? We know you cannot tell who will abuse you by looking at them. Most likely, if the new person in your life is an abuser, they will sweep you off your feet and make you feel like…

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  • A Guided Meditation for Abuse Victims

    A Guided Meditation for Abuse Victims

    Get the Abuser’s Voice Out of Your Head My sister, Erin Chavez, created this guided meditation for abuse victims, although she meant it just for me at first. I had to tell you she made it for me first because my sister is so supportive of me and all-around awesome. And I want everyone to…

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  • Verbal Self-Defense: What You Must Know

    Verbal Self-Defense: What You Must Know

    Stop or Slow the Escalation of Abusive Anger Verbal abuse underlies most domestic violence, so verbal self-defense can help you when your abuser flies off the handle. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of its destructive nature but because it so often abusive anger escalates into physical violence. Learning the art of verbal…

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  • Judging and Criticizing

    Judging and Criticizing

    Making You Look Like a Loser Judging and criticizing allow your abuser to express how little they accept you as you are. The abuser implies that you should be smarter, saner, less picky, pickier, or any other type of expression about how little your abuser appreciates who you are. Many judging and criticizing statements start…

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  • Mentoring Program from Verbal Abuse Journals

    Mentoring Program from Verbal Abuse Journals

    Mentoring Program Renamed Domestic Abuse Survivor Help (DASH) I’m very proud of the former Verbal Abuse Journals Mentoring Program. We helped hundreds of people who lived in abusive relationships or had left them. I will be forever grateful to Janet Rhodes for supervising the program and then accepting full responsibility for it. Before handing it…

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  • True Stories of Abuse

    True Stories of Abuse

    We are no longer accepting submissions. But you’ll find our collection of true stories of abuse helpful. Here are some stories from people just like you: Why Do We Share True Stories of Abuse? True stories of abuse are important for several reasons: Overall, true stories of abuse are an important tool for creating awareness,…

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  • Verbal Abuse Books That Teach the Vocabulary of Abuse

    Verbal Abuse Books That Teach the Vocabulary of Abuse

    Verbal abuse books helped me discover that my marriage problems were rooted in verbal and emotional abuse. I felt relief because up until I read the library of verbal abuse books available, I thought that I was losing my mind. My abusive husband had almost convinced me that every problem in our marriage was my…

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  • Safety Planning Process Brings Up Tough Emotions

    Safety Planning Process Brings Up Tough Emotions

    One of the toughest things about the safety planning process is that it forces you to face the abuse in your relationship. When you look at your abusive relationship truthfully, the panic to leave begins. You rush to judgment on yourself, thinking things like, Please, refrain from judging yourself. Not one of those reactions takes…

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