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Am I Abused? (A Quiz)

Am I Abused? (A Quiz)

Victims in abusive relationships wake up every morning wondering if the abuser will be nice that day. The abuser does not have bad days. Abuser’s have consistent bad behaviors. This Am I Abused Quiz can help you tell the difference between abuse and the…
Are Abusers Mentally Ill? If So, What Do I Do About It?

Are Abusers Mentally Ill? If So, What Do I Do About It?

No, Probably Not. Are abusers mentally ill? Short answer: no. It is unlikely that abusers are mentally ill. Mental illness of any kind affects about 18% of the U.S. population in general and about 18% of abusive people too.1 Most abusers are…
Are Abusers Typically Men? Let's Stop Assuming They Are

Are Abusers Typically Men? Let’s Stop Assuming They Are

Men can abuse their male partners; women can abuse their female partners. Women who abuse men are just as horrid as the reversed situation. I want to make it clear that the information presented on Verbal Abuse Journals seeks to educate victims and prevent…
Can You Be Financially Abused If You Have Money?

Can You Be Financially Abused If You Have Money?

You can be financially abused even if you earn your own money or have access to family funds. Financial abuse is more than you may think.
How Do I Stop Emotionally Abusing My Wife?

How Do I Stop Emotionally Abusing My Wife?

A husband asks how to stop emotionally abusing his wife: I am a verbal and emotional abuser and have a chance to save my marriage. How do I stop emotionally abusing my wife? I didn’t even know I was doing it until lately. HELP! I am suffering …
How Does Witnessing Domestic Abuse Affect Children?

How Does Witnessing Domestic Abuse Affect Children?

Our family is and was dysfunctional as they grew up. The effects of Will’s and my behaviors affected them greatly but in very different ways. However, they are not children anymore and I want to give them more privacy than I did when they were “my babies”…
My Abuser Has PTSD. What Do I Do?

My Abuser Has PTSD. What Do I Do?

I’ve never been to war. I’ve never been raped at knife-point or fought for my life from strangers. But I did live with an unpredictable, angry and abusive man for over 17 years. And that is way more than enough time to develop hyper-anxiety, difficulty…
Was I Abused When He Grabbed My Face?

Was I Abused When He Grabbed My Face?

Domestic abuse victims ask, ‘Was I abused?’ because they truly don’t know, even if the answer is obvious to outsiders. Find out how fear alters an abuse victim’s perspective, and makes ‘Was I abused?’ confusing to answer.
What Does Living with Domestic Abuse Feel Like?

What Does Living with Domestic Abuse Feel Like?

Living with domestic abuse feels like you’re carrying around a 500-pound weight–except you don’t realize you’re carrying the weight. You don’t remember how much grander life felt before you picked up the weight, because adding it to your burdens happened…
Why Can't I Just LEAVE?

Why Can’t I Just LEAVE?

Reasons You Might Stay I wrote a post on my other blog that answers this question. Here’s a portion of it. “So many people beat themselves up over the question “Why can’t I just leave?” Do you want the easy answer? You aren’t ready…
Why Do Abusers Abuse Others?

Why Do Abusers Abuse Others?

Abusers are cunning and smart, masters at planning, persuasion, and execution. Their intelligence minus the ability to feel makes them dangerous.
Why Does Gender Bias Exist When Talking About Domestic Abuse?

Why Does Gender Bias Exist When Talking About Domestic Abuse?

Gender bias in articles about domestic violence and abuse is common. What has to happen to get rid of gender bias in domestic violence and abuse conversations? See this.

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